When nightmares consume us, let love embrace us.

by blueberrieblues

The thought – the memory has not been released from my mind. It’s been a couple of weeks since I’ve shared my story with the WordPress community and my husband. The love and support I have received from my husband has been nothing short of amazing. He believes in me. He knows my strength and is amazed at how far I’ve come in this life with what had happened. So, when will my heart let it rest?

This morning, I woke early, shaking from a nightmare, another rape-mare. It was completely different than any that I’ve had in the past. I just laid there awake, trying to brush it off and my husband woke and held me tightly with loves embrace. It’s just frustrating – it hurts. This incident, the entire relationship with my ex-boyfriend messed with my mind and character. It’s obviously still in there, trying to make it’s way out. I’ve had headaches on and off since mid-August and my eye hasn’t stopped twitching. I wake up chilled, almost shivering, nearly every morning.


So, I continue my venture to create peace in my mind. How do we do this? Here are a few things I’ve learned over the years that I obviously need reminded of:

Breathe. Take deep, long breaths, in and out, through the nose.
Medicate. Don’t be ashamed to take medicine. Some of us need them because of the low levels of serotonin produced in the brain.
Speak to a professional. Doctors are trained to help walk you through the steps, don’t be afraid or ashamed.
Exercise daily! Whatever it is that makes you feel like you’ve worked your ass off, do that. And enjoy it.
Practice yoga and meditation.My doctor recommends meditating 3 times a day for 5-10 minutes at a time.
Replace a negative with a positive. It’s easier to keep a journal near by to remind yourself why you’re so amazing!
Eat healthy.The less carbs/sugar, the better. Our minds get a little sugar rush when consuming these things and this can effect a person with anxiety when you come off of that sugar high.
Think logically.Come up with a plan and stick to it. When we have anxiety, we’re typically not thinking logically.
Surround yourself with beauty and happiness.A perfect dose of fresh air in the beauty of nature does a mind good.
Allow yourself to be embraced by love. Have a support system. You’re friends and family are there to help you get through this and become a better you. They see your good qualities and strength. Positive, healthy relationships are key.
Let yourself feel. One of the hardest things I’m dealing with is allowing myself to relive, to feel the past since I didn’t deal with it when it happened. Maybe I wasn’t ready for it? When you are, open up and be free. This isn’t your burden to carry.
Stay busy.There is a happy balance that needs to be made with the above statement. If you can’t handle what you’re going through or are going through extreme anxiety, do this until you are strong enough to face reality.
Smile and laugh.Because it’s fun and once you fake it – it’s easier to become a reality – or whatever that saying is.
Let God guide you.Obviously, depending on your faith, do what you need to do. I choose to believe in God. He is your best friend and is there to walk you through anything and everything with His grace and love.
Cut the caffeine. Let’s be smart – caffeine makes your heart race.


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Disclaimer: This blog is of my personal opinion based on my experiences. The techniques, strategies, and suggestions expressed here are intended to be used for educational and discussion purposes only. I am not rendering medical advice, nor intending to diagnose, prescribe, or treat any disease, condition, illness, or injury. It is imperative that before beginning any nutrition or exercise program you receive full medical clearance from a licensed physician. Blueberrie Blues claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the material presented here.